I know how challenging it is living in a stepfamily, because I have lived in one for many years.  Our children were in elementary school when we married, and now they are adults.   I’ve experienced the pain of divorce, the excitement of a second chance at love, and the ongoing challenges of stepparenting. Couples in stepfamilies face all the challenges of a first marriage and others that are unique.

Fortunately, it is possible to create a happy stepfamily.

The fee for each 55-60 minute session is $200.

Tips for Stepmothers

• You do not have to love your stepchildren. It is important that you treat them respectfully and fairly.
• Make yourself available, but continue to enjoy your own activities, too.
• Be patient. Relationships take time to develop.
• Clarify parenting expectations with your spouse.
• Treat the ex-wife respectfully, and accept that your husband needs to communicate with her regularly for the benefit of the children.

Tips for Stepfathers

• You do not have to love your stepchildren. It is important that you treat them respectfully and fairly.
• Share yourself.  Spend time with each stepchild.
• Let a friendship develop between you and the children before attempting discipline.
• Help your spouse develop rules, and let her be the primary enforcer of rules.
• Talk to your wife if you feel undermined.

Tips for the Biological Parent

• Allow your partner and your children to get acquainted on their terms.
• Maintain realistic expectations. It takes time for relationships to develop.
• Take the role of primary disciplinarian.
• Spend time alone with your partner, your children, and yourself.
• Keep your partner informed.
• Set a tone of acceptance and respect.
• Remain open and flexible.